Tuesday, 26 June 2012

Day 3 - Walking Through Resistance


I have been resisting writing about redefining words and as I look at why I realize that the reason I keep coming to a point of completely resisting writing, as Redefining words is what I want to focus on but I cannot find a word to redefine, the point that I realise is that I need to redefine resistance or resisting facing a point.

If I look at how I have been living or existing as my current definition of resistance what I see is:
A point that I see as a waste of my time, useless, pointless to do or face or write about as I do not want to see that whatever point I am looking at exists within and as me as it doesn’t fit into my perception of myself.

The dictionary definition of resistance is:

n
1. the act or an instance of resisting
2. the capacity to withstand something, esp the body's natural capacity to withstand disease
3. a. Compare reactance R  the opposition to a flow of electric current through a circuit component, medium, or substance. It is the magnitude of the real part of the impedance and is measured in ohms  b. ( as modifier ): resistance coupling ; a resistance thermometer
4. any force that tends to retard or oppose motion: air resistance ; wind resistance
5. (in psychoanalytical theory) the tendency of a person to prevent the translation of repressed thoughts and ideas from the unconscious to the conscious and esp to resist the analyst's attempt to bring this about
6. physics  the magnitude of the real part of the acoustic or mechanical impedance
7. line of least resistance  the easiest, but not necessarily the best or most honourable, course of action

Through sounding out the word the other words that I can hear are:

Tense, stance, cyst, rest, ants

If I look at all the information that I have gathered in terms of the word resistance and how it affects me:

My perception of the word resistance and my relation to this word makes it look to me as a bad word. The reason for this is that me resisting doing something shows me that I need to do what it is that I am resisting as it is a point that I am afraid of or too lazy to do and as I also see myself as better than the point that I am resisting( at least some of the time).

The associations that I have made to the word resistance are:

That the word is bad and that it means that I am lazy and not good enough to walk through the resistance as I am consumed by fear of change and the point that I am resisting would change me if I face or do it

The experience I have in relation to resistance if that I am lazy and that I start feeling ashamed of myself when I avoid walking through the resistance as I am afraid, so whenever I have had the word or form of resistance come up I feel immediately worse and like a huge weight has been put on my shoulders that I did not want as I feel like I am doing enough even though I know it is not true. I also use the word resistance to hide from changing my idea of who I am as I enjoy who I am even though I know who I am at the moment is comprised of fear, shame, guilt and laziness.

Self-Forgiveness:

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to see the word resistance as something bad
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to become angry at myself for going into resistance towards working through points or writing anything out
I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to look at why I am resisting facing a point out of fear
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to fear resisting a point as it shows me that there points that I have not dealt with
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to fear being seen as someone who cannot work through points, as someone weak and as someone useless
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to limit myself to the point where I go into a complete shutdown instead of dealing with a point
I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to see what I am doing to myself as a point of distraction and entrapment
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to enjoy the comfort of hiding behind my resistances and fear
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that if I am stuck in a point of resistance that people will see me as less than them
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to fear being seen as less than
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to take it personally when the idea that someone is seeing me as less than me comes up
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to become entirely consumed by resistance which is all fear based
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to become entirely controlled by fear
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to let fear dictate my every move

If I look at what would best define the word resistance I come up with these possibilities:

A point that is being revealed as something to work on and requires direction as it is affecting myself as who I am as I am allowing myself to go into a reaction even if I do not realize it.

Definition:

Resistance is an experience from the mind that it uses to hold self back from facing whatever point is in front of me.

Resistance can be used as a tool to indicate when I am hiding from or using an excuse to not face a point and therefore an indication that I should push myself and walk through the resistance.


Checking the definition

a.   Is there a polarity in the definition that I have assigned to the word?
Answer: No

b.   Can I stand by this definition of the word eternally?
Answer: Yes

c.   Does the definition that I wrote represent what the word means?
Answer: Yes

2 comments:

  1. Hi LJ - thanks for sharing, this is supportive.

    Another point:

    You can ask Niklas/ Matti/ Gian someone to change your blog to the .com ending for us around the world - thanks!

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  2. Thank you for this blog Leslie John this is practical support with regards to redefining words and checking the definition. THANKS!

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