Day 35 - The Sins of the Parent

Source Article: http://www.news24.com/SouthAfrica/News/Boy-nearly-dies-while-mom-out-drinking-20130604

Johannesburg - A 7-year-old boy from Sasolburg nearly died when his house caught fire while his mother was out drinking at a nearby bar.

According to a Volksblad report, the boy was asleep at home when the fire woke him up.
“The child was lying asleep. He woke up from the heat and flames and smoke and could flee to safety through an open window,” said Zamdela police constable Peter Kareli.

It transpired that the boy’s 25-year-old mother regularly left the house on a Thursday evening, and would leave her child alone at home until Sunday or Monday.

She was arrested for child neglect at the bar and was taken into custody.

She will appear in a Sasolburg court soon.

This is a perfect example of why a lot of people should not be parents.

How can it be justified for people that are untrained and are not responsible are allowed to raise and train children- who are literally the future of us all? The child that is in this article will forever be scarred by this event and will be cared for by another which is most likely, similarly untrained.

It should be a given that any individual that wants to get pregnant should be checked to see if they are capable of supporting and raising a child and are then trained as to what are appropriate responses to behaviour and how to train the child to live as a responsible and stable person in the world.

If you consider that if children were raised properly, that they would be able to change the world – succeeding where we have failed.

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Day 31 - Down the Drain

Source Article: http://www.news24.com/World/News/China-Newborn-rescued-from-toilet-pipe-20130528
 

Beijing - A newborn baby boy was rescued from a sewage pipe in a Chinese apartment building after being flushed down a toilet, state media said. 

"Fortunately the baby survived. But the person [who abandoned him] is still suspected of attempted murder," said an unnamed police officer, according to the official news portal hangzhou.com.cn.

Residents in Jinhua, in the eastern province of Zhejiang, called firefighters after hearing the 2-day-old baby crying in the fourth-floor squat lavatory, the report on Monday said.

Attempts to pull him out failed, so rescuers sawed away a section of the 10cm diameter pipe with the baby inside and took him to a local hospital.

Firefighters and doctors spent nearly an hour taking the tube apart piece by piece with pliers and saws and finally recovered the newborn, whose placenta was still attached, the report said.

From the time he was found to when he was taken out, the baby was stuck in the tube for at least two hours, it added.

The 2.3kg boy suffered some cuts to his face and limbs and his heart rate was low at one point. He was put in an incubator and was in stable condition, the report said.

Police were still looking for his parents, it said.

Chinese families traditionally have a preference for sons, but babies born out of wedlock are sometimes abandoned because of social and financial pressures. The country's one-child policy can also mean heavy fines for couples who have more than one baby.

- AFP

Video Link: http://www.news24.com/Multimedia/World/Baby-rescued-from-Chinese-sewer-pipe-20130528

 

This is one of those stories where if you told someone they would think you were lying.

I can see how it is possible to be scared when having a child in China as there are fines in terms of having a second child and that if the child is born out of wedlock – meaning that the parents aren’t married, I only found the meaning now – the parents might not have money or would be shunned by family as the culture is unforgiving.

The fact that these people did this is insane. The fact that they possibly had a good reason is disgusting. The point is that in this system people have to survive and feel forced to do terrible things to be able to survive. 

Laws have consequences, for instance: The laws that are in place to deter people from having multiple children in China has the possible consequence of people devising cruel ways to get rid of children. The problem is that the consequences of points that are placed as law are very rarely considered – in their full scope – or are ignored completely until a problem arises that needs to be fixed.

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Day 23 - My Mother BETRAYED Me

This is a continuation to Day 21 - I lost my Friend, My Brother

I lost someone who is was and always will be more than family, brother, father and friend. He died in October 2011. As far as I know he killed himself. His name was Anthony. The first memory I have of him is from when I was around 10-11 years old. My mother had recently married another man and he was an aggressive, self-absorbed type of man. He had physically hurt me a few times – not as extensively as some who was actually beaten but enough to make me fear and hate men older than me. The memory of Anthony I have is from when he was dating my sister and they had sat me down to talk to me about why I was so scared and aggressive towards him. I told them that I was scared that he was going to hurt me like my step-father did and started crying, so Anthony hugged me and told me that he would never hurt me. Some of the details may be off but this is one of the strongest memories I have of him. I cannot remember how long I had known Anthony before this.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to judge my step-father as an aggressive, self-absorbed, stubborn, asshole
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to fear my step-father since he was extremely aggressive towards me
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to fear men that are bigger and more athletic than I am, as I believe them to be stronger than me and as such, able to hurt me
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that people bigger than me are going to and are able to hurt me
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that I need to be bigger than everyone so that they cannot hurt me
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to go into fear and ego when I am around my step-father, as I see myself as less than him because he is an extremely athletic person
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to see myself as less than my step-father
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to judge myself as weak and lazy as I always tried to “weasel” my way out of doing anything athletic when I was younger
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to project the belief and presence of being better than athletics and athletic people, since I actually see and believe myself to be less than athletics and athletic people
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to fear people seeing that I see myself as too weak to participate in athletics
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe and judge that I am too weak to participate in athletics
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to actually create and manifest the physical weakness that I perceived, believed and judged myself to consist of
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to be angry at my step-father for ruining the relationship I had with my mother as I saw who she actually was when she started giving over all of her power to him because she felt safe with such a strong man around
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to blame my step-father for my mother giving her power away and through that, blame him for ruining my relationship with my mother
I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to believe that my mother would give herself and her power over to someone else willingly
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to see it as a betrayal that my mother gave up and left me for my step-father
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that my mother betrayed me
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to be angry at my mother for betraying me
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to be angry at my mother for leaving me
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to be angry at my mother for revealing to me that she believes herself to be weak and incapable to live on her own, which in turn causes me to see myself as weak and incapable of living on my own
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to see my mother as weak and powerless for giving herself over to a man that she married for no other reason than protection and security in life
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that since my mother is weak, incapable of living on her own and looking for a partner that can provide for her, that in turn means that I must do all these things, as I have to follow in my mother’s footsteps, as she is supposed to be a “life model” that I have to follow
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to be angry at my mother for damaging my life as I see her as the cause of me following all these ridiculous paths in life
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that my mother damaged my life
I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to realise that I chose to follow in her footsteps, that I chose my own life paths, that I damaged my life and that I am the one responsible for my choices in life and in who I choose to be

To Be Continued...

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