I see a lot of people go into fear about having children.
For me the fear is that I will pass on “bad” physical genes and that the points
that the child has to overcome from my DNA will be more than necessary. I
realise that the child will have points both physical and personal that are
passed on through our DNA that the child must work through no matter how much I
want them to be ‘invulnerable’.
The main point - from my perspective – that is different to
the responsibility of raising an animal or raising a child, is that the animal
does not have my DNA within themselves and that the child does. Within this,
the perception is easily created that it is like fixing someone else’s fuckup
instead of my own. From my mind’s perspective, it enables me to place the
responsibility for a lot of the animal’s base character designs within
something other than myself, whereas with a child the responsibility for his
base character design comes undeniably from me and my partner.
I am not saying that the act of raising a child and an
animal is the same; I am only trying to say the principles of how to raise them
are. I will teach them how to live within common sense and show them how to
consider what is best for all in every decision they make. I show my animals
this point as much as possible, but there is a communication ‘barrier’ that
makes it more difficult. I am confident in the fact that I will be able to
bring the message of “do unto another as you would like to be done unto” either
as clearly or more clearly to my children.
I ask my animals to treat me with the same respect I show to
them and that is all I would ask of my child, taking into account the
unfortunate difficulties of this world that the child would have to be shown –
how to work with and how to survive in a world of greed. I will have to teach
them about the world even though I did not enjoy it when I was young. I will
ensure that the child is able to stand no matter how hard the shit hits the fan
– which would mean that it will not be easy but it will be necessary for them
to learn about the how and the why the world works the way it does now.
I would’ve preferred to bring my child into a world that I
can be proud of and that the child would be safe but, children that are taught
that they must stand together to change the world are necessary to assist in
the change that will come. (Note: I am
not saying that everyone should have kids now, I am rather placing my current
process into understanding and due to the fact that I have had an upbringing
mainly based on support within the principle of what is best for all – as my
father was standing this example throughout my life – I am clear on the fact
that at this stage in my process and my life, I can support a child effectively.
The decision to have a child will be made by each one according to their own
process and of course the ability to support a child financially.)
I ask now for the forgiveness of my child or children for
the amount of responsibility I am laying on their shoulders.
I ask that they realise that there is no other way to ensure
that the world will change sooner rather than them having to pass it on to
their children.
I realise that my children will have the best life that I
can provide for them, but they will not be able to live free until all can
stand together, equal as one, for what is best for all.
